Excuse me, Jinjiang people's marriage customs

Hong and Qiang are people from Jinjiang. The two loved each other for two years. After knowing that strong parents knew, they knew that Hong's family was average, immediately opposed Hong, and immediately arranged for a strong blind date. Under the atmosphere and family pressure, Qiang had to break up with red, and was engaged in May this year. During the engagement, Ting's family sent a Honda car. After the engagement, he still loved red. But it is impossible to get a divorce. Perhaps he will get married at the end of the year. Once he talked about it, he regretted listening to the arrangements of his parents at home, and Hong was also resentful and strong. Now everything has become a boat, but the two are still inseparable. Red is very contradictory. Two years of feelings are broken on the "door -to -householding" on the "return to the non -abundant" recovery money "... I have seen too many examples of these types, and faced with this kind of marriage customs to create a creation of this kind of marriage custom. The sorrowful story can only pass by with a speechless smile again and again, but just watching the best friend Ai Ai complained to make me have a deep silent heartache. What is love in front of money?
The social atmosphere, not only the daughter had to accompany a large dowry in the past, in order to have a status of her daughter to go to the husband's house, they would not be crowded out. And parents are worthless. .. Rich people want to be more rich in households. The so -called better development for the family, no money people want to make a wife's book, and pure love is vulnerable in front of reality. .. ..
Jinjiang men choose to find a loved woman to fall in love. It is just love. Love and marriage are two codes. Pure love in front of marriage is vulnerable, because there are too many additional conditions in marriage, and women only have these additional conditions. Only the foot of the pad can get the door to the marriage. This is the sadness of marriage and the sadness of women. The reality is cruel.

is the "high dowry" pulse
yesterday, " At the Reader Symposium on Civilization and Promoting New Wind, people from all walks of life have expressed their views on the causes and harm of the marriage customs of high dowry, and how to curb the more intense dowry comparison.

The phenomenon

The change of daughter's inheritance right

Huang Yanyi, deputy minister of the Propaganda Department of Jinjiang Municipal Party Committee: There is a saying in the folk. Yes, because the downside is high. But this is divided into two. Economic and developed areas to dowry their daughters are a manifestation of inequality in men and women. Because in the southern Fujian region, men have the right to inheritance, and the daughter's marriage is "splashed out of water". Therefore, the practice of marrying a daughter to high dowry or even a corporate shares is actually a form of change in the right of daughter. The above is the past.

The high dowry phenomenon has three levels: the first level is the strong economic strength, which can afford high dowry; the second level is to follow the conditions without considering your own conditions; the third level is a more rational level It is mainly in Jinjiang Anhai, Chidian and other places, using collective weddings and other forms. The wedding is simplified and not blindly followed.

The thought of male light and women

Yang Xinhui, vice chairman of the Fengze Women's Federation: "The bigger the daughter, the more my parents, the more my son, the more assured of the parents", and the "widow "There are many or not in front of the door, and there are women in and out of the husband's house but have been congratulated by people, reflecting the traditional concept of the heavy men and women who have been reflecting for thousands of years; the daughter has no high dowry, and her parents are worried that their daughter will have no status in the future. It is hoped that the woman's family has good economic conditions to prove her strength and status. Many people hope that their daughters will not marry Jinjiang people, but they hope that their daughter -in -law is from Jinjiang, and it is nothing more than high dowry.

This is easy to get tragedy for returning money

Jinjiang Chen Xun Ding Tongzhi: Chen Yan once had two tragedies caused by high dowry.

The family married a daughter -in -law. When engaged, she gave hundreds of thousands of yuan to the woman by borrowing usury loans. When she got married, the woman did not return the marriage custom as a dowry. At the wedding, the man's mother fainted on the spot when he knew it.

. On the other hand, the woman used the hire of hundreds of thousands of dollars in the man to pay the salary of the family factory workers, and there was no high dowry to marry the man. Both of the two marriages eventually dispersed.

The high dowry and high hiring money are really harmful. In severe cases, he will make his wife ion scattered and intensify social contradictions. "Quanzhou Evening News" pays attention to this phenomenon, which is of great significance and can promote the government to rectify this bad habit. The government should use guidance to combine administrative intervention to rectify.

■ Cause

The multi -custom coastal blending

Professor Chen Shaomu of OCT University: High dowry phenomenon has historical and cultural reasons. Quanzhou is a well -known historical and cultural city. The traditional historical and cultural accumulation is deep. It can be seen from the "three books" and "six gifts" that prevailed from coastal to marriage.

The ancestors of coastal people such as Jinjiang are mostly Central Plains in the late Western Jin Dynasty, and they carry a large number of Chinese cultural traditions. The customs of the Jin Dynasty compared the customs of wealth, so that their descendants, the Jinjiang people were subconsciously affected; on the other hand, Quanzhou was a land of Fujian and Vietnam in ancient times, and there were many indigenous customs; coupled with the ancient Quanzhou It is the port of business and is influenced by foreign customs. After the combination of various customs, the marriage customs of the coastal areas are more complicated and grand than other places.

In geographical point of view, the coastal area of ​​Quanzhou is rich and the climate is pleasant. Traditionally, the economic developed areas. The production of dowry provides fertile soil.

In cultural reasons, an important feature of my country's national nature is love face, which leads to the phenomenon of supporting scenes very common. Also, the Chinese have been accustomed to living under the care of family relationships since childhood, and they are everywhere everywhere. Unlike the West, they advocate independence, so that parents should worry about their children because they are worried that their daughter will be angry after marriage. Giving high dowry is a manifestation.

It the process of urbanization is slow, farmers do not leave the country and enter the factory, and most of the coastal people stay in the natural and economic state of self -sufficiency. Fall into the custom. Based on tedious gifts and customs, the lack of personality and taste becomes very common.

The marginal distant Confucianism

Professor Chen Guibing, Quanzhou Normal University: In the overall layout of socialist spiritual civilization, folk culture should have an important strategic position. The high downtown and wedding customs of the southern Fujian coast are formed for a long time. The marriage of ancient times is not like the present. Even in Hui'an County, there are good phenomena in ancient times.

The wedding customs for high dowry do not comply with the Confucian "ritual" regulations. In ancient times, the marriage customs had "six rituals". By the Song Dynasty to the Ming and Qing Dynasties, it was simplified to "three rituals" or even "one gift", and did not advocate waste. The formation of this custom has geographical marginalism (that is, Quanzhou is located in the coastal zone) and cultural ethics (that is, far from traditional cultural centers).

The is affected by cultural level

The vice chairman of the Fengze Women's Federation Yang Xinhui: The cause of high dowry phenomenon is also inseparable from cultural and educational factors. Nowadays, the level of education in the society is relatively high, and there are groups of cultural and high -quality groups. Marriage will not do much. Instead, pay attention to personality and taste.

This with the matchmaker's promotion of the matchmaker

The legal adviser Lin Xiaoyang: According to the divorce case I took over, the high dowry, high hire money phenomenon and the matchmaker of the matchmaker are very large. In the relationship, a matchmaker successfully watched a marriage, and he could get a red envelope with a total of 10 % hire, total dowry, and a total of 10 % of the dowry. Therefore, the matchmaker will be extremely three -inch. The woman said how much the man will have a deposit. Both men and women and their own family do not understand each other. The marriage and relatives packaged in a short time are often easy to contradict in the return of the hire and the divorce rate.

■ Harm

This brings many social problems

Can overseas Chinese University Professor Chen Shaomu: talk about luxury lectures, high -color gift thick dowry The trend should not analyze the impact of this phenomenon in isolation. my country is still in the primary stage of socialism. Most people have just bid farewell to food and clothing. They are on the road of Xiaokang and cannot bear the burden of high dowry. "The swollen face is a fat man" often built the debt, which brings a series of social problems, affects social and economic development, affects the innovation and market development of corporate product, and affects the quality of family life. Some people even do the matter of stealing chickens and dogs for this, affecting the construction of spiritual civilization.

This two "tornado" shave fierce

Ding Xiancao, director of the Jinjiang Chenyu Hui Committee: The marriage customs of the coastal area, two "tornado" caused great harm to the society, Chen Yan is particularly powerful.

The first "tornado" is the man's heavy dowry, and the female party is greedy for high hires. In terms of hiring, it has risen from 200 yuan, 400 yuan to 200,000 yuan, 400,000 yuan, 800,000 yuan or more. The dowry from a bicycle, a 14 -inch TV to the current high -end imported cars and houses. Therefore, many ordinary families are worried when their children talk about marriage. Because the family's economy cannot afford high dowry and high hires, some people choose to steal, steal, grab, deceive and other behaviors; some people cannot get married because they have no money. These are seriously endangered society and there are various criminal hazards.

The second "tornado" is the lecture. Many people have set up many famous aims in order to talk about the row, engagement banquets, son -in -law, wedding banquets, and kiss banquets. Each banquet is wasted. Continuously expanded, and the specifications of banquets have been continuously improved. The current price of Jinjiang's banquets is 1,000 yuan, 800 yuan, and 600 yuan, which are high, medium, and low, respectively, which makes some of the bad family have to "pheasant and Feng Fei" and support it.

often spending money to buy pain

Wu Mingzhe, deputy director of the Propaganda Department of the Jinjiang Municipal Party Committee and Director of the Civilization Office: Some people who get rich first in Jinjiang are unfortunate Essence Consumption can have increased the total amount of happiness in society, but due to the wind of high dowry, sometimes both men and women are unhappy. This consumption actually becomes painful.

■ Countermeasures

The government intervention guidance

Huang Yanyi, deputy minister of the Propaganda Department of the Jinjiang Municipal Party Committee: Jinjiang will use the correct guidance of the media, the government plus the government plus Civil organizations such as large intervention and launching the elderly will stop the behavior of large -scale exercises and encourage high dowry, high -hiring money to donate to the Charity Federation, etc. to alleviate the phenomenon of high dowry and high -employment gold prevailing. In addition, the "three modern" education of "building a modern city, establishing a modern new style, and a modern newcomer" will be held to guide citizens to transform the concept.

Li Jianmin, deputy minister of the Propaganda Department of the Licheng District Committee: The main reason for the reason why the phenomenon of high coastal dowry is intensified is that measures, supervision, propaganda, rights protection, education, etc. Of course The phenomenon of phenomenon may also be showing off the psychology of "people's rich face". In this regard, the government can consider introducing relevant administrative penalties to set up an upper limit on hiring, dowry, and banquet scale, which is more than how much penalties. Party and government departments at all levels should pay attention to that the Propaganda Department, Trade Union, Women's Federation, and Communist Youth League should join forces with new winds and advocate civilization to form a combination of customs and customs.

Ling Jiansheng, deputy director of the Nan'an Civilization Office: You can move the customs and customs to change the customs and change the concept of marriage customs by organizing measures such as collective weddings, advocating learning families, and strengthening government supervision.

Colonally create a good atmosphere of public opinion

Cano Chen Shaomu: curb high dowry phenomenon, work hard on publicity and education, use the masses' likes to see and have various methods to move the customs. It is necessary to vigorously improve the level of urbanization and promote the bad habits that should not be retained to withdraw from the people. In addition, it is necessary to vigorously run cultural education. The more cultural and quality, the more you can consume rationally, to establish a new concept, and to have a wedding that has a personality, taste but not a waste.

Professor Chen Guibing of Quanzhou Teachers Academy: In terms of advocating and moving customs, the Quanzhou Municipal Party Committee and Municipal Government attach great importance to it. They have also made a lot of efforts and created a good atmosphere of public opinion. This is very important.

It, it is also important to strengthen research on theoretical aspects and promote folklore reform. However, folk reform must be gradual and scientific attitude. The old marriage customs cannot be broken first, then stood first, or only broken, but the two tubes must be neutral, and the side is broken.

The legal consultant of this newspaper Lin Xiaoyang: It is necessary to effectively curb the phenomenon of high dowry and high hires. Relevant parties can consider the introduction of relevant "civilized conventions" to restrict bad habits and advocate civilization.

This conventions are welcomed by many low -income families, because such families are opposed to high -funded capital, but they have to support it without steps. Public opinion should be strengthened, and the masses should be guided to save money for marriage. It is used to purchase computers, popularize scientific and technological knowledge, strengthen product research and development, and introduce advanced technology.

The wind of high dowry

As the "March 8" section comes, the protection of women's rights and interests has become the focus of attention from all walks of life. Facing the wave of market economy, the stability of the family is an important cornerstone of social stability. Today, how can women's status and citizens' living standards constantly improved, how to make the majority of women in our city have a happy and happy marriage and family life? From the series of "Following the Phenomenon of High Downsy", which was launched in the past few days of "Quanzhou Bay News", we can see that in the wealthy zone on the bank of Quanzhou Bay, the more high dowry and high hires of the high -hiring gold have damaged the damage, which damaged the damage. The marriage of young men and women endangers the stability of many families.

Mo marriage is a question that everyone must care about. The happiness of marriage is the longing for many young people. With the changes of society, the wind of marriage has shown different characteristics, and it is marked with a clear era. Once upon a time, the backwardness of the economy and the constraints of feudal thoughts caused the phenomenon of marriage and early marriage, which caused family tragedies. To this day, when the lives of citizens have been on the road of well -off, when the construction of spiritual civilization is getting more and more valued, we are surprised to find that the increasingly rich society brings new marriage problems: high dowry, high dowry, high dowry, high dowry, high dowry, high dowry, high downs A lot of tragedies have spawned around us. The surface scenery is infinite, and deep helplessness is often hidden.

It, more wealthy people are the performance of social progress. If you have money, it is also a promotion of social economy, but we should not advocate "showing off consumption." Some people have a good background of the times and the blessing of the economic environment. The people who get rich first have not only the responsibility of driving the overall development of the society and economy, but also the conscience of paying attention to the public welfare undertakings and morality.

In the new era, we should pay more attention to the real marriage and quality of life, and we should pursue the personality and taste of the wedding. The style of the high dowry, which blindfolded the scenery of marriage, and even building the scenery of marriage and even the cornerstone, it is time to the cliff. □ Link -related link dowry is so high

Lao Shi in Yongning Town, Shishi City was married in the 1970s. At that time, it took more than 3,000 yuan in accordance with customs. It was already luxury at the time. In the first month of this year, when Lao Shi's son got married, the cost of his son's marriage had risen to about 270,000 yuan. And this is only a local standard. Lao Shi said, spending money is good to say that this tedious gift number is really dizzy -

The ancient wedding customs to today

. It is understood that the coastal zone High -darling and wedding custom can be described as long. As early as the Western Zhou Dynasty, "Six Rites" --- "Nathe", "Ask Name", "Najib", "Naisa", "Seeing", and "Welcome" are the six major procedures for marriage:

Na Cai: The parents of the man asked the matchmaker to ask the woman's parents.

In asked name: After the woman agreed to the marriage, the man sent the matchmaker to the woman and asked the woman's name, zodiac, birthday character, etc. related circumstances related to "fate", and went to the ancestral temple to divination Fixed a good luck.

Najib: is the engagement. The ceremony can be simple or complicated, but exchanging the engagement ring is an indispensable "program". Generally, the men's parties are accompanied by a number of people and matchmakers to the woman's house.

A signs: That is, the man sent a gift to the woman's house, and whether the woman accepted whether the marriage was actually established.

Inval: Shortly after the signs, the man sent a matchmaker or the date of the wedding ceremony directly with the woman.

Merebric: The groom went to the woman's house to marry the bride. According to the regulations, plus the follower, you must go to the double number. The wedding ceremony is generally held at night to banquet friends and relatives.

The marriage custom is this way. Even if there are small changes, it is "inseparable from its ancestors." Quanzhou is a historical and cultural city. Various traditional customs and etiquettes are well preserved, of course, including this important custom.

This in recent years has risen

The gifts in the Tang Dynasty are usually satin or so on. At the same time as the tradition, the coastal people give this custom some times.

The makeup content in the Song Dynasty is colorful. , Antiques, etc., are all available.

In the 1950s: the groom wears a suit, the bride wears cheongsam is fashionable; "wedding car" is a hired sedan seed; drum music is a blowout team to fight; Will be a wedding.

The 1960s: a wedding photo, plus the parents of both parties dinner, the whole process of the wedding. The gifts sent are Chairman Mao's quotations, like chapters, and also given washbasins, hot water bottles, towels; gifts at least 2 yuan, 8 yuan is a "high gift". The heaviest dowry is naturally the clothing supplied by tickets. At that time, there was a singing lyric of "nylon socks, four doubles, four shirts really good".

The 1970s: more than 600 yuan for hiring, the dowry is a sewing machine and a bicycle. Please get 20 tables and banquets for a total of 3,000 yuan. It was a luxury wedding at the time.

The 1980s: It is the fastest period of change. The "wedding car" was a bicycle first, then a motorcycle, and then a car appeared. As for the dowry, the "three rotations and one ring" are first, that is, sewing machines, bicycles, watches and radios, and then televisions, washing machines, refrigerators, air conditioners, and then passbooks, houses, cars.

The 1990s: The passbooks sent by the dowry are getting "expensive", the house is getting bigger and bigger, the motorcycle is getting luxurious, the size of the banquet is getting bigger and bigger, the grade is getting higher and higher Essence Taking the four realms of Jinjiang Chen as an example, the "wedding car" was the ordinary motorcycle first, and later it was a big black shark with more than 20,000 yuan. Essence

The new century: With the development of the economy, the grade of dowry has been further, the highest record is: a Mercedes -Benz 320, a BMW 725, Liulian Street Top Step, Cash 1.5 million yuan, US $ 150,000 Yuan, the other most luxurious and stylish furniture appliances ignored — it is said that the woman was set up at 10 million yuan.

It still takes the four realms of Jinjiang Chen as an example. The dowry of 300,000 yuan, 500,000 yuan, and more than 1 million yuan is the "market" of low, medium and high -end weddings, respectively. The jewelry does not use "gram" as a metering unit, but is measured in "jin". Generally, a wedding will cost 2 pounds of gold to 3 pounds. The "market" base price given by the guests is 200 yuan, and it is not rare for 500 yuan or 1,000 yuan or even thousands of yuan.

This gifts are mainly composed of three parts: jewelry, cash and food. Jewelry includes ring, necklace, earrings, bracelets, bracelets, and ankles. It is mainly gold. As fashion changes, jewelry, diamonds and platinum have become "new pets."

The cash includes hiring, gift money, and cloth money. The hiring money is for the woman's parties. In ancient times, satin in ancient times usually spent thousands of dollars. Food can be simple enough to have only one bucket of edible oil plus a box of exquisite biscuits, or it can be complicated to candy, canned, fruits, seafood dry goods and other colors. The single candy costs about 80,000 to 90,000 yuan.

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The "marriage" of Jinjiang's wedding customs

After visiting and visiting each other, the parents of both parties have no objection, and the next step is "marriage". Both men and women use a folding of Shunhong paper, and the book "Eight characters in the birthday" to list the duty, monthly, day, and duty of men and women on the paper. Seeing the "eight characters" of both men and women, commonly known as "batch eight characters", this is the so -called "marriage".

If according to the old Chinese wedding system, it is generally necessary to be calculated by the Xing Ming family. It is believed that the combination of men and women can get married, so as not to get married after marriage or hinders home transportation. In the old Beijing, there is a saying that "the twelve genus is combined": "Green rabbit and yellow dogs are in ancient times; red horses and yellow sheep have long life; sleeping mouse and ox are prosperous; There is a saying that the so -called "twelve belongs to the phase": "White horse is afraid of green cows, once the sheep and rat are resting, the snake tiger is like a knife, the dragon rabbit tears communicate, the golden chicken is afraid of jade dogs, pigs and monkeys are less than heads."
n n n n n n n n n n n R N After the calculation of Mr. Matthew Museum, the marriage of men and women will have results. Under normal circumstances, Mr. Late Museum wrote an appraisal (such as "Zi and Ugly", etc. according to the birthday characters and subordinates of "dry creation" (man) and "Kun made" (woman), and then according to "Yodao Ji Ri" and The position of joy, choosing the date of marriage, and writing these things on a red paper fold. This red paper fold is the so -called "dragon and phoenix post". In the traditional wedding system, this "dragon and phoenix post" is particularly important, which is equivalent to today's wedding certificate. Only by obtaining it can we count the marriage formalities.